Hello everyone.

Woooh!!! last day of 2018.

My goodness, were actually here.

We all have our hopes, prayers wishes, dreams,resolutions etc lined up right, whatever they are just make sure you are going to be strong and handle whatever obstacles you are going to face.

Yes obstacles, they are bound to be some, no one can help you face it, only you.

The path to success is to take massive determined action – Tony Robbins

You have to set your priorities and your mind so you can stay focused .

You need to stop dreaming and saying; just start doing.

What ever it was that made 2018 either good or bad for you, you need to let the bad go and embrace the good.

Think positive, set you mind for better out come in things you chose to do.

Trust your intuition, believe in you, your guts won’t lie to you.

Talk doesn’t Cook Rice – Chinese proverb

Move forward, live the toxic relationships, friends and be in a More promising group or relationship.

Stop procrastination.

Keep a personal journal so you can keep track on you goals,

You get inspired and motivated all year round, by people, articles, environment etc you need to really show that you were really inspired. Start using what you learnt.

And what gave you that aha moment, what made you realise that you want to do better, you want to move on, you want to dare to dream.

Be confidence, love yourself, nobody can love you ; like you.

Learn more; knowledge is power, we have known this for years.

TV is a waste of time there are a lot of stuff you can do, instead of watching mindless programmes watch real situations educational documentaries.

You should relax sometimes you don’t have to be with someone, alone is good ,take a lot of me time as you need to get your energy, and focus.

Read books, if your already a reader like me, well good, read some more there are a lot of great books out there that would do you a lot of good in developing your mind and brain.

Don’t let people use you, take you for granted, your better than that, they might think your good for nothing don’t sweat it, use it as a determinate to go places they never thought you could go.

Be kind, don’t let the bitterness and bad happening around; make you hard, don’t be harsh and nasty to, people who don’t deserve it.

To all my followers, thank you. Have a awesome 2019.




Hello everyone

Hope your all fine, it just been hectic to write these days with the children on break,

There is so much chaos in the city here people are planning trips to there various villages to see their families, in Nigeria it is time for all these trips which course travel fare to go up and stuff in the market also goes up; but were not here today for that.

I was just looking back how far I have come with this blog and from one post to almost 80 well from the beginning it felt a bit silly and I knew I had to improve the content gradually, I have always stated I am open to inputs and advice to help do better, no one is perfect you know.

What ever one sets his or her mind to do, you have to give it your best shot and put a lot of hard work into it, and dedicate some time, and keep writing, you can make changes and get better with time, a lot of us need motivation, some are so intelligent but are secard to actually come out and impart some of the gift to humanity; which is a total waste.

2019 is right at the corner, what have you learnt in 2018,have you met your goals, have you understood yourself who you are, what your capable of ,and what you can do better.

The time is now, create a plans, goals, strategies on your next move to be a better you, no one can do it for you;only you.

So what are you going to do;make that choice and go out there and do YOU.

Enjoy the holidays





Everyone; hope your all doing well,

The year is gradually coming to an end,  and were all making resolutions and looking back at all the things we got wrong, the ones we did right, the ones we need to do better, and also the new ones we need to start doing.

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Some off us are shy, timid, and reserved, not your fault but, if you really want things to work for you you need to move very far away from you Comfort Zone, make a really big move to get into the new year with a big! big! bang.

You need to begin to live a bigger , bolder life;  if your ready for this move to live bigger and bolder you need to start doing some things; check this out:

  • Develop clarity about what it is you want to achieve in your life and why you want it so much.With a clarity of purpose it will be easier for you to find your focus on the outcome of what it is your want without wasting time and energy.
  • How you start today matters; you need to take at least one step towards achieving your goals every single day, you know doing something every day will ensure that you get better at it, you don’t have to be perfect at it, don’t strive for perfection.
  • Make goals that are measurable and try to always review your progress, so you know how your doing.
  • You are bound to make mistakes,if you don’t make mistakes, then it means your not working hard enough; you learn through your mistakes than playing it safe so learn to forgive yourself because you will make mistakes.   
  • Remove cluster from your life and activities that don’t need to be there, and those that wont serve your purpose.
  • Think positive, remove negative self talk and move far away form toxic and negative people replace it with positive affirmation and stories of people who have similar goals despite all odds.
  • There are going to be alot of challenges on the way, your gong to fall down and probably get a bruise or skinned knee here or there, but you’ll pick yourself up and move on. As important as it is to stay focused on the desired outcome, its even more important to feel good about each step you take along the way. So take time to celebrate any little accomplishment. 
  • You have more power than you know what to do with in your life. Be confident in yourself and your power to choose your own destiny. Harness that potential, and your limits will know no bounds.

Know your worth, believe in yourself, know that you can do it and go out and get it,  have a blessed Wednesday.




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Hope very one is doing well,

Hope you had a lovely weekend, mine was quiet hectic, the kids are on holiday; just think about that, and you know what i mean.

The year 2018 will in a few  weeks come to an end, like most years, most people make resolutions on what they want to improve in there lives and things they what to do better next year; so i put up some write up about it and ways to go about it.

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It’s that time of year again were everyone makes resolution on different aspect of their lives, trying to stay focus and healthy and determine to work harder and put our best into projects we hope to do well in.

We mostly make big decisions which become hard to keep we need to go slow; so everything can go steady.

Make resolutions you can keep so that when it’s the end of the year; like this one, you would have a lot to be grateful for; you need to make flexible resolutions, that are not so rigid; or you might just quit just when you get started

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We need to make resolutions that we are happy doing, not that you cannot make resolutions that are hard, but don’t make resolutions that you won’t be able to meet e.g. Maybe you weigh 200 klb and your resolutions is to loose like 120 klb, please let’s get real here, it’s really unrealistic; and you won’t feel comfortable going on that diet because believe me unless you going to starve yourself all year round how will you meet up. Because you might also fall sick because that kind of diet would be tough and rigid.

Stay focus on project and attaining goals we make. For financial situation its also good to keep realistic goals so you don’t strain yourself and mess up you goals.

It’s good to stay focus on any goal, you have to also keep balance of all the goals you make so you don’t module up things and miss you targets for each goals.

Some Resolutions We Need To Make To Improve Ourselves:


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  • Improve your Knowledge. 
  • Apply for online courses. 
  • Start a side business.
  • Network more within your field.
  • Find  like minded groups; whom are seeking to work on there careers too.


  • Go on detox diet at least 3- 7 days in every 2 months.
  • Try the intermediate fasting is so flexible and easy to adapt to, i started doing it this year, and am loving my body.
  • Cook more of your meals and eat out less
  • Introduce an exercise session; though i hate exercise but we have to move our butts guys.
  • Simple dance routine you can do; just shake you body dearies.
  • Drink alot alot alot alot of  water believe me, clear skin, overall digestive health will be yours.


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  • Let go off all the nasty stuff that has happened, focus on a better year ahead; just forget and create new and better memories
  • Face your fear.
  • Leave your comfort zone
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  • Express yourself more
  • Control you anger


  • Accept yourself
  • Love yourself more
  • Try to be more positive; about stuff
  • Be grateful for each day.
  • Take some me time; take that moment really serious dear.
  • Handle criticism like a boss.
  • Learn to say NO; and don’t worry about it after that.


  • Learn to do things yourself
  • Watch less TV, Cable TV etc.
  • Develop a morning routine.
  • Read More books,
  • De-clutters your  room and wardrobe take out all the stuff you don’t need. 
  • Try and attend some seminars and conferences, develop a better you.


  • Take few courses to improve your self.
  • Take online courses too.
  • Upgrade your skills.
  • Join groups that can help you develop your self.
  • Develop your financial literacy.
  • Improve a hobby; you know very well it could be Art, Writing etc.

So as we make these resolution we really need to focus on them and if you slip on the way just get up and keep moving.

Have a lovely Monday  Lovelies.





Hope everyone is doing well.

We are today talking about the woman, its not an easy topic to talk about but it is very dear to my heart as a Muslim woman myself. pardon me some of you men reading this.

The Muslim woman has faced alot of backlash from the society as a whole and from our own society too, as much as we do our best as wives and mother and daughters etc in must societies extremist have corrupted the Islamic teachings to suit them and mixed it with there cultures interpreting certain issues to suit men in the society and making women more like slaves; girls  are meant to not go out like men and boys , i can remember as a child they was always a difference of how the boys were treated from the girls.

As a matter of fact if you have daughters and not a single son you are declared doomed. what is wrong with daughters tell me what.

They claim sons take care of the parents and all sort and some girls are not allowed to further there education they end up marrying someone becoming a stay at home mum and no capital to start a business she has to depend on the man, for everything to sanitary pad. Before you know it the man starts getting fed up and starts insulting her, because his providing for her 24/7. 

If its because of the stuff that happens in colleges and the society that women are subjected to these restrictions, the men are also to blame most of the Muslim guys have sex and involve in all sorts before they get married and the women are shamed if they are not found as virgins.

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As far as am concerned in our societies now, it is the women that take care of the parents more, they are always there for there parents.

Apart from our own people hurting us we have the  world mis-understanding us taking as as uneducated and unfashionable, depressed and oppressed.

We are not oppressed and we are very much educated thank you. Just because we cover up our hair and body that doesn’t  makes us oppressed no way i wont accept that.

Because of these problems; women are suffering in many regions with there children, women need to be empowered and educated and allowed to make something with there lives. 

“Women make up one half of society. Our society will remain backward and in chains unless its women are liberated, enlightened and educated.” 

― Saddam Hussein, The Revolution and Woman in Iraq

“The extremists are afraid of books and pens, the power of education frightens them. they are afraid of women.” 

― Malala Yousafzai

“My value as a woman is not measured by the size of my waist or the number of men who like me. My worth as a human being is measured on a higher scale: a scale of righteousness and piety. And my purpose in life-despite what fashion magazines say-is something more sublime than just looking good for men.” 

― Yasmin Mogahed, Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life’s Shackles

“When, as happened recently in France, an attempt is made to coerce women out of the burqa rather than creating a situation in which a woman can choose what she wishes to do, it’s not about liberating her, but about unclothing her. It becomes an act of humiliation and cultural imperialism. It’s not about the burqa. It’s about the coercion. Coercing a woman out of a burqa is as bad as coercing her into one. Viewing gender in this way, shorn of social, political and economic context, makes it an issue of identity, a battle of props and costumes. It is what allowed the US government to use western feminist groups as moral cover when it invaded Afghanistan in 2001. Afghan women were (and are) in terrible trouble under the Taliban. But dropping daisy-cutters on them was not going to solve their problems.” 

― Arundhati Roy

Life is not perfect; so you cannot expect people, humans for that matter to be perfect.

I have  been enraged for a while about some many issues in our Islamic society. I just had to voice  some of it out.

To be continued…… please.