Life lets us experience a lot of things, some beautiful, some sad and some so, so sweet and pleasurable; but it gets to a stage were you need to move on, be it a relationship, job, marriage you have to weigh the pros and cons; see if you can continue or if its best to let go.
The more you hold on to something which is not favorable to you ,you could get hurt
or the person or partner with you if its a relationship.
If it a job you might not do it well, if its death of a partner; if you don’t let it go you
could hurt yourself and people around you; but most importantly is good for you to know what you really want. its easy said than done, everyone of us faces these sort of situation at some point in our lives.
No matter how it is you really need to make a decision that suites you and only you at every point. like i said am not saying it going to be easy but somethings just have to be done.
It took me quite a while as you can see to recover from the death of my spouse, but i had to do whatever it took to be their for my kids and for me too.
Take as long as you like, but make sure you get to that point when you talk about it ; your okay and you can handle it without loosing yourself.
Build a new you; slowly.